Blog Category: well being

1 Feb

nice one to start the month of February off with....

I was sent this as part of an e mail and loved the sentiment behind it - so here it is!

"Be who you are and say what you feel...

Because those that matter . . don't mind...

And those that mind . . . don't matter"

May you always have

Love to share,

Health to spare, and

Friends that care!

8 Sep

Keeping Fit at Work ! ! !




"This firm requires no physical fitness programme.  Everyone gets enough exercise jumping to conclusions, flying off the handle, running down the boss, flogging dead horses, knifing their friends in the back, dodging responsibility and pushing their luck."

Sound familiar?

6 Jun

Keeping it REALLY simply!

I was looking around, recently, for some new ideas and inspriration for a new Personal Development workshop I am designing, and came across this great story about making assumptions, being judgemental, and above all, making things more difficult than they need to be . . !

A party of suppliers was being given a tour of a mental hospital.  One of the visitors had made some very insulting remarks about the patients.  Aft erh the tour, the visitors were introduced to various members of staff in the canteen.

The rude visitor chatted to one of the security staff, Bill, a kindly and wise ex-policeman. 

"Are they all raving loonies in here then" said the rude man.

"Only the ones who fail the test," said Bill.

"What's the test?" said the man.

"Well, we show them a bath full of water, a bucket, a jug and an egg cup, and we ask them what's the quickest way to empty the bath,! said Bill.

"Oh, I see.  Simple - the normal ones know it's the bucket, right?"

"No actually," said Bill.  "The normal ones say pull out the plug.  Should I check when there's a bed free for you?"


Food for thought eh? How often in our personal or professional lives do we not  stop to think about the easiest or most effective way to achieve a result, and yet by stopping briefly to give some thought to the options available, and making a decision that might just save some time and effort.

I found this story, and many many more on a fantastic website called where there is a whole host of interesting information about learning, development, and life in general.



12 Mar

Accepting your Self - sent to me by my sister

I  would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder to  myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am  entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. 

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon, before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60's &70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is  pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.  

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.
So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I  like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).



25 Feb

The Sound of Silence - taking time out

When was the last time you just sat and did absolutely NOTHING????  !!!!  Scary thought, perhaps, for some people, but by doing nothing, LOT's of things actually do happen....... For instance:

  • your heart rate will probably slow down
  • your blood pressure will probably reduce
  • your breathing will certainly slow down and be more steady and regular
  • and....... if you do it for long enough, your busy mind chatter will probably quiet down as well

Doing nothing is not about sitting cross - legged and meditating for hours on end!!!  Simply sitting for a few minutes and not moving, not looking at anything and not listening to anything in particular - they all can make a huge difference on your physical, mental and emotional well-being.

So I DARE you to sit somewhere for AT LEAST 3 minutes (try 5 if you are feeling brave!!!)  EVERY DAY and see what happens.  It could be the first time in a LONG time that you have done it, and a word of caution......  If you say to yourself that you haven't got time to sit for a few minutes.......then that might just be a sign that says you NEED to sit quietly for a while to rest up and recharge!!!

And if you need some help sitting still, then take a look at the CD "Calm your Mind" and listen to the free track.

It seems that more and more people are choosing silence as a way of dealing with the turbulent times we are living in.  Sara Maitlant - an author and journalist - writes of her experiences of silent living in an inspirational book called "A Book of Silence"  (published by Grant 2008

Also check the Diary section on the site for details of a radio programme talking about silence - March 7th

17 Feb

smiling - just a thought!!!

Was listening to an interesting radio interview with a guy who was talking about the way the brain works, our thoughts and how they affect our moods.  I was struck by a question he was raising about smiling:

Are you happy when you smile or do you smile when you are happy?

He was saying that the act of smiling can make you feel happy, which in my own experience I can recognise - I suppose if you are genuinely smiling it is difficult NOT to feel okay or even great!!!

9 Feb

DSD - Do Something Different to feel good


D.S.D      Do Something Different

Simply effective for switching your thoughts OFF and making you feel better

Sometimes our thoughts can run away with themselves and get the better of us, for all kinds of reasons: because of obsessions, something upsetting us, rehearsing 'to do ' lists in our head, and so it goes on, and the more you try to stop those thoughts the 'louder and more persistent they seem to get'. Sound familiar?

ONE thing to do which might just help - don't think about your thoughts but just DO something different.!!

Have you ever been annoyed with something or someone, and took yourself off and cleaned the cooker or the kitchen floor or did something physical to take your mind off things? Quite simply, you Did Something Different which probably made a difference to how you were felling. So DSD can work if you let it.

WARNING:    Whenever you do something different, give it your absolute attention and energy -  with a smile on your face, and it will definitely influence how you are thinking and feeling by the time you finish.

No money needed, just use your time and energy in a different way.

So next time your 'mind has a mind of its own'..... make a commitment to DSD, and it will have a double benefit.  It will take your mind off those bothersome thoughts, AND you will end up getting something worthwhile done.  And finally, it might just make you feel good as well. 

So here goes... some other DSD activities:

  • Clean - the car, the cooker, the kitchen floor, the garage, the loft, the whole house
  • Walk the dog - if you haven't got one go and borrow one
  • Spend some time with your children -if you haven't got any, go ask your best friends if you can take their kids off their hands for a little while - they will love you forever
  • Go to an art gallery, cinema, theatre
  • Cook something without a recipe book and with ingredients you have in the fridge, freezer, cupboard
  • Take a power walk around the block and notice every step you make on the ground
  • Play a musical instrument and make a noise - no need to make music
  • Sing your favourite songs
  • Sing your favourite songs to a cd while you hoover
  • Mow the lawn
  • Paint a wall
  • Do a puzzle, jig saw, soduko, knit, sew, count the panes of glass in the house / apartment next door
  • Look through your photo album
  • Put all of the photos from all of your holidays in to a photo album
  • Sing and dance while you do any of the above things


12 Nov

The Physiology of TIME - don't let time get you down!!!

Unless you are an Alien from another Planet, we all have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds as everyone else on earth!!  It's how we choose to use that time that determines what we do, what gets done and hopefully, how you enjoy the time you have.

And while we can't stop the hands of the clock moving around - no matter which part of the world you live in - how you think about the time you have - or feel that you don't have - can make a significant difference on your physical and emotional well being.

In the same way that we talk about the weather - how good it is, or how bad it is, and how that affects us, those thought don't change the weather. Similarly the way that we talk about time doesn't change the passage of time, but what it does affect directly is how we feel, and importantly, can have a direct, and often immediate effect on the chemicals that run around in our body.The good ones and the baddies (those stress hormones that wreak havoc on our bodies).

For example, if you 'think' that you have not enough time to get something done, that can be just the incentive you need to get a move on, work smarter and faster and achieve what you didn't think you had time to do.  Very satisfying and leaving you feeling pleased with yourself and releasing some of those feel good hormones and chemicals in to your body.

However, put too much pressure on yourself and really feel that you are 'up against the clock', 'way behind schedule' and that 'time is against you', then you can start rushing and make mistakes, put your self under immense mental pressure, and release many of the stress hormones in to your body, that stay there long after you got done what you had to - 'on time' and not thinking about it any more.  Those thoughts can have a powerful impact on your physical well being. - for good or not. 

Similarly, stuck in a traffic jam (which you could not have avoided) and worrying about being late does NOT make the traffic disappear, and getting angry at the car and driver in front, will not make it go away.  But, having those thoughts will release chemicals in your body which do you absolutely no good. So you arrive at your destination hassled, annoyed, worried etc etc etc!!!  Try just accepting what is happening, enjoy the rest of the journey and arrfive arrive refreshed.  Make good use of the time you have in the traffic jam - take time to think about new ideas, plan your evening meal, sing a song, smile or look forward to the weekend whatever it takes to make you feel good about the time you have.

So how we think about time doesn't change time itself, but thinking about it in a positive (or at least a neutral) way, does change what happens inside of us - for good or not.  It is, quite literally, the thought that counts. 

So next time you are feeling stressed or feeling under pressure and it all gets a bit too much, take a second to take a long relaxing breathe in, then another one, and ask if there is anything you can do to change the situation you are in, and if the answer is yes, then do it.  If the answer is no, then change how you think about it and you will start to feel more relaxed.

Take a look at the T.U.G. technique which might help you stop getting manic when time seems to disappear.

12 Nov

the T.U.G. technique - stop recycling your thoughts and worrying!!!

T.U.G.  - something different to help stop your chatterbox mind running away with itself.!!! 
(so,  not what you though it was about!!!)

Neuro Scientists would have us believe that thousands of thoughts run through our head every day, most of which are just the same ones being recycled, and don't serve any useful purpose.  In fact, it can often be the case that we might start the day with some niggly thought which keeps nagging us throughout the day, and stops us enjoying what we do, or fully appreciating the good things that the day has to offer.

Those niggly thoughts can be about anything, or anyone/ real or imagined.  You might be thinking that the day ahead will be difficult, some things you have planned may not succeed, the bus might be late, some work colleagues are bound to disagree with your ideas, or don't like you, or that you don't have enough hours in the day to get every thing done.  And so the list goes on, and those recycled thoughts begin to take on a life of their own, and get bigger and bigger, louder and louder in our heads until we become totally oblivious to the world going on a round us, and just be obsessed with the thoughts!

And what's more, you can't find the off switch, or the volume control to turn the noise down, or switch to another "channel" to listen to. 

Well, think of the T.U.G. technique as a kind of OFF switch - at least to allow you a moment stop and think about what you are thinking about - BEFORE they take over your day and world!!!  And those three letters stand for


So, it works like this.  Whenever you become aware of thoughts that you have had before, which bother you, make you feel irritated, cause you to think negatively about a situation or person, STOP and ask yourself these three questions:

Is what I am thinking TRUE?  ( and if you answer YES, ask yourself "How do I know it is true?" - you may not know but just assume you know!!)

Is what I am thinking USEFUL?  (in other words, does it help me clarify something or just confuse me more?)

Do those thoughts make me feel GOOD? (in myself, about myself, about others, about the situation)

If the answer to ANY of the above questions is NO, then think about something else that does make you feel good.

The trick to the technique is to stop yourself the SECOND you become aware of those niggling thoughts, and TUG at them.  Don't allow them to take control.
Nip them in the bud.

And of course, sometimes we do have thoughts that keep coming back time and time again - so it might be that they are useful thoughts which need to be looked at, sorted out once a for all, so that you feel good for doing that.

So, keep on TUGging at those niggling thoughts, and start to choose the thoughts that you want to have which are true, very useful and make you feel really good.

23 Oct

in to the sunset with a smile

cool shot eh!!!  I have it on good authority that this is a genuine Photo - and even if it isn't, brought a smile to my face.